A day in the life of my UK family

I’m at a very big advantage having family to stay with in the UK. I’m lucky that I had a British father who still has relatives living in England. It makes accommodation a lot easier and stress free, and it’s a good excuse to travel and spend time with my family here.

I was going to add in their last name into my blog title, but I decided against it for privacy reasons.

I’m staying with my cousin, his wife and their two young children who I absolutely adore. They’re both girls and they love my company just like I love theirs. It’s great to be around people you can trust and just have a good laugh with and spend time with them in general. That’s why I feel so at home here because I have family to be around so I don’t feel so alone. It has definitely helped with being home sick during the first couple of days since my arrival. Having young children around also keeps my energy up and I find I become so exhausted after playing with them. So it’s been good to keep busy and just hang out with them. My cousin and I also talk a lot about life and the world and his wife and are like sisters, going out for breakfast, coffee and shopping of course! So it’s almost like I haven’t left home!

The time with my family I treasure the most is eating at the table together. I have not done that with my immediate family in Australia since my dad died and because mum started working full time after his passing where she works in the evening and so my sister and I are left to fend for ourselves so we basically eat at any time we want and wherever we want. My dad was the main reason we all got together as a family because we all had more spare time. I’ve forgotten what it’s like to eat as a family because it’s been a while but it’s nice to get a feel of that again. It makes me realise how much I miss it when my dad was around. It’s just a great way to be together and talk and laugh with each other. It’s my favourite time of the day with them and I always get so excited about it each time I am leaving from work of an evening.

I believe it’s so important to spend time with your family as much as you can because they are so special and are a major part of your life. I have been a little sad my family and I back home don’t get as much time together as we’d like. So we make the most of the time we’re at home together. It is good to have our own space though, now that my sister and I are older, but family time is always special.

They always make you feel better when you have a bad day at work or if anything else gets you down.

I’m so happy I’m staying with my family here in the UK. We are all very close and I am grateful I get to spend the next year with them. We have a lot of plans ahead and I look forward to spending more time together and creating even stronger bonds than what we have now.

Hero of all time

My best friend in the whole world passed away almost 5 years ago now. And that person was my dad. Every day I miss him and wish he was here in my life physically. I know he is here in spirit and watching over me but it isn’t the same. I know he is in a better place now though, not suffering anymore.

I was 16 when he died. To this day I still think it is quite a young age to lose a father. But, I’m thankful that I was at an age that I knew him, grew up with him and made memories with him that I won’t ever forget.

We did everything together. I loved doing DIY work at home with him the most. And I loved how he always joked around and made me laugh. And what I love about him the most is that if I was ever upset about anything, his voice was the only voice I needed to hear to let me know everything was going to be okay. He was one of the most gentle, calmest people I have ever known.

Sometimes I can openly talk about his passing like I am now but other times it is awkward and hard. What inspired me to write this blog was the film ‘Breaking Dawn’. The scene where Bella gets married and her dad gives her away made me think about the fact that my dad won’t be there to give me away on my wedding day. Bella and her dad are also close which took me back to my relationship with my own father. I really miss him. I don’t think I’ll ever get over it even though I have moved on in my life. He will never be forgotten and he still is apart of my life even though he’s gone.

I’m so proud I have had the strength to get through such a tragic time in my life but it has made me such a strong person and makes me realise that I can conquer anything.

I will always miss my dad but his legacy will always live on and he is an inspiration to me to keep living life happily, the way he would want for me. I’m sure he is looking down on me giving me a big smile 🙂 He is the reason I live everyday. I live and breathe for him because I know he would want me to be happy.

Forever in my heart and mind.

Michael Joseph Crofton Sleigh,
I love you forever and always.

Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely

Whether you’ve been through a break up or not, some of us feel we need to rush into finding love. It could be because we feel we’re behind from our friends who are in long term relationships or because we feel we won’t ever find anyone so we decide to settle for less; someone who isn’t right for us and won’t make us ideally happy. And in the long run, you won’t be in a genuine relationship with that person.

Soon after my ex boyfriend and I broke up I felt I had to move on to someone else straight away and start a relationship with them to make the pain go away and forget my ex. Well through seeing different people and growing attached to them, only for those relationships to shatter and never become anything more, I learned that that’s not the best move because I find soon after a break up, issues between you and your ex are still fresh and therefore you’re not emotionally ready to commit yourself to someone else. You’d constantly be comparing your new partner with your ex and that’s not fair on you or them and it would result in an unhappy relationship, more hurt and potentially, another break up.

I myself have good friends who are in serious relationships and I always felt I had to catch up to them because it seemed that they have their lives on track and are set to go. What I didn’t realise until recently is that you don’t need a partner for you to say your life is set. You don’t need to be like anyone else who is a couple either long term, engaged or soon to married. Life is not defined by one person. Well I don’t think so anyway. There is plenty of time
to settle down and be with someone but first it’s important to make room
for you and enjoy your life on your own, to do all the things you wouldn’t normally do or can’t do if you have a partner. There is no need to rush. I’m young, I’m 21, and a lot of you people out there are young too. Be happy you’re at an age you can still enjoy your life and do so much for YOU. I used to absolutely hate being single but I’ve become so used to it over the past few months and I absolutely love it! I don’t have to answer to anyone, nor do I need to stop myself from doing or not doing something because of someone else. I don’t have to worry about fights or any other dramas with someone else. It’s a great life! The thought of being with my one true guy is a nice thought but one that will exist in the near future. I will settle down when I’m ready. But for right now, I’m going to enjoy my life. And you should too. So don’t be sad you’re not with anyone and don’t be desperate and just jump at someone who crosses your path just because you need someone to make up for your loneliness. That’s not the way to true love. After all, it’s better to wait and have something that’s real and true, than to rush and settle for second best.

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