The key to living a simple life

1. Feel and be happy, whatever the situation.

2. Worry less! (Easier said than done, even for myself)

3. Don’t complain (Something I find a challange, especially being a female)

4. Put YOUR happiness first.

5. Take each day as it comes, have no expectations. Everything else is bonus.

6. Stop any negative thinking.

7. Be nice to others and you’ll be treated the way you want to be treated.

8. Forgive others, and yourself.

9. Don’t hold grudges.

10. LOVE life.

11. Be positive.

12. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re a good person.

13. Be confident in yourself.

14. Be open minded as much as you can because thoughts become things!

15. Make a negative situation a positive one, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

16. And most importantly, SMILE!

The universe will take care of the rest.

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Don’t worry, be happy

Since I had a rough week last week having a hard time dealing with homesickness, I decided to post this photo up of me at a time I was really happy and calm, and also somewhere that is my favourite place to be – the beach! Starting to feel much better now thanks to the weather and my friends, especially having an awesome girlie day out today with Lisa.

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If anyone else is having a hard time, I have this photo up for you too to remind you all to treasure the good moments in your life and be as happy as you can be despite the bad times.

Take care, be strong, happy smiling and god bless!

Love Kathy
xxx

Gym junkie to be?

Thanks to my awesome friend Lisa, I have started to get into gym and exercise again. We went to the Genisis Health Suite at The Palace Hotel in Paignton and at first, I was so nervous, we both were, since it was our first session. I was worried about people paying attention and watching me, which I’ve heard is not the case since everyone is doing their own thing and are all there for a reason.

It turns out that I felt so good after it and I didn’t care so much what others were thinking. I did the cross trainer, row machine, treadmill and some sit ups. I could have done more of those if I didn’t work so hard on the cross trainer! At least it was a good hour spent in the gym.

Following that, Lisa and I used the pool which was really relaxing and refreshing after the workout. It was good to get in there! We also took advantage of the spa 🙂

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Thank goodness I got to go today because not only am I motivated and driven to go the gym more, but it has made me motivated to start running again since I have missed months of running for the time I’ve been here so it will be good to get into that again.

The only dilemma I have with the gym is the next time I go, I need to be a member and at the moment, I don’t have the funds to join for any of the membership deals. This is where a second job needs to come in! As soon as that is sorted I’ll be on it! For now, I hope Lisa will be fine without a gym buddy for the moment.

I feel so good after today!!

Live your life!

My life quote:

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A power sentence for each year of my life

1990  – I was born to the most amazing parents in the world, I would not be here today if it wasn’t for them!

1991 – My sister Sarah was born and despite all the fights we had as children, she has become my very best friend in the entire world.

1992 – I went on my first trip to the Philippines. I don’t remember it obviously but it’s amazing enough that I had gone overseas at such a young, tender age.

1993 -I really do not remember any big events that happened this year so I won’t be able to recall any.

1994 – I received my very first bike with training wheels from my brother. I loved riding around on that thing!

1995 – I was a flower girl with my sister for my auntie’s wedding in the Philippines. What an amazing experience that was and I felt honoured playing such an important part on her special day.

1996  – My first year of primary school. This was a very scary milestone in my life since I was so used to being around my mum all the time. I cried so much when she took me to school. I did not want to let her go! I also remember crying in class and my teacher was so good about it.

1997 -I celebrated my 7th birthday at McDonald’s which is where they used to run parties for children with games, cake and the like. It was such a huge and popular thing to do at my age back then. All children got psyched about it.

1998 – I moved from Thomas Chirnside Primary School to St. Andrew’s Catholic School. That’s where I met one of my first best friends who, sadly I have lost touch with and don’t see anymore.

1999 – I memorised a speech for the very first time that I presented in front of my class. That’s all thanks to my dad who taught me a lot.  Memorising that speech increased my public speaking skills and confidence that became extremely useful in my later school years.

2000 – I had my first family trip to the UK and America.  I missed a good three months of school because of it! But it was a great trip from what I remember.

2001 – The year of 9/11 and although this did not affect me personally, I do remember going to school that morning and seeing it all over the news. Such an extreme event to be exposed to at the age of 11.

2002 -I became one of the sports captains for my team ‘Padua’. This was a very proud moment for me as it taught me how to be a good leader.

2003 – I began secondary school at Mackillop Catholic Regional College and I missed my first two weeks because of being in the Philippines and I was nervous as it was. Everyone else in my class had settled in for that time! But Year 7 was not as hard as I made it out to be at all. It was almost like my last year of primary school!

2004 – Me and my family moved from our old address we had lived in for 9 years to a new double storey house not too far away. I still miss my old house though! It had the biggest garden.

2005 – I started my very first part time job in retail at a department store. I was there for 5 years.

2006 – I went to Japan for two weeks for a school trip. It is such an amazing country and I would love to go again. My favourite sights were Tokyo and the Hiroshima Bomb Dome site. I met the most amazing people there and the host family I stayed with treated me as their own.

2007 – My father passed away – I lost my best friend that year. He was my mentor and still is my hero and admiration. That was a very difficult time for me and to this day I still find it hard that he’s not around… We were very close and it was painful to lose someone so close to me at the age of 16. I do appreciate I was old enough to get to know him though.

2008 – I turned 18 and had the best party ever to celebrate it. Surprisingly enough, I did not have one drink that night. I was never into drinking until I turned 19. This is all feels like so long ago now.

2009 – I entered my first year of University and studied the Bachelor of Arts. I am very grateful for uni as I have made many lifelong friends from there.

2010 – I broke up with my first serious boyfriend of three years. I met him when I was 16 and experienced what it was like to be in love. I was very naive then. I thought I would be with him for life so this was a pretty hard year for me, one in which I really lost myself and had no direction in life.

2011 – I decided to make a change and let go of my past by going to the US in September and the UK in November, where I am still living now and plan to for a year. It was the best decision I ever made. I have learned so much and grown so much as a person. This is has been one of the most amazing experiences of my life!

2012 – It is still quite early into the year but I currently enjoy being in the UK and working at a local club where I have met some really awesome people. This year is the year to be all things different, and travel anywhere I possibly can! I love my life 🙂

I hope you enjoyed reading through the journey of my life so far. I can’t believe how fast time has flown over the years!

Like a zombie

For the past three weeks to a month I have been going to bed extremely late, and I’m talking about 2am, 3am late. It’s absolutely insane! And for some odd reason I can’t control myself to do otherwise.

Ever since I was in secondary school, especially in year 12, I was always going to bed really late at night and the main culprit to that was Facebook and the fact that that I felt that being in bed by 10 or 11pm was too early for me. Anytime after 12am seems to feel like a decent hour to go to bed each night but then I pay for the consequences later that day by feeling unfresh and tired.

I know it definitely has something to do with the fact that I have easy access to Facebook via my mobile phone and there somehow always is someone to talk to or comment on into early hours of the morning. It is also the best time to contact my family back home because of the time difference between here and Australia. And every night I’m always watching the TV until about midnight with my cousin and I never go straight to bed after that. I’m either once again on facebook, listening to music or reading my book. But it’s mainly the former. Facebook seems to be the main reason I am up so late. It can be a really bad obsession. And the thing is, I can live without facebook because I have deactivated it a few times before and I don’t have this constant desire to know what everyone is up to all the time. In the past, I have logged out of it completely and turned my phone off so I don’t have that distraction and can get a better night’s sleep but I’ve always bent that rule I’ve set for myself.

Each night I keep telling myself it will be different and that I will be going to bed by at least 11pm, 12 at the very latest. But it never seems to happen. I know it’s not good for my health and my skin and I don’t like the feeling of getting up half way through the day and feeling unrefreshed. It’s my own fault though. I really need to stop this bad habit from continuing any longer.

The power of acceptance

One of the hardest things to do in Iife is to accept. Especially when it comes to things we don’t like to accept. I had trouble with acceptance for a year and a half but I have really learned it’s power and how it has changed my life.

I have brought this up many times in previous blogs and I can relate to this issue again. After my break up, when I wasn’t feeling positive about anything, I could never seem to convince myself that things happen for a reason and that not everything is meant to be. I kept focusing on how I wanted everything to be the way it used to be and to be happy again being in the same position with my ex partner. But what I didn’t realise until late last year was that I had to accept that the relationship was over and there was no way to fix it anymore to go back to the way things used to be. I also realised I deserved so much better than how I was treated after the break up. That has definitely helped me a lot in the healing process. Accepting that I needed to begin a new life on my own doing different things was really hard because I couldn’t imagine living life differently to how I had been the past 3 years. That life was a huge part of me and I couldn’t let it go for a long time but once I accepted that things were going to be okay and that I would be happy again, it honestly felt like a massive load off my shoulders. All this weight that had been dragging me down had completely disappeared and I felt so grounded. It is such an amazing feel to wake up to everyday.

I also discovered quite recently that acceptance helped me in another situation. Over the weekend I had a tough time because of the lead up to the new year and I had been missing my family, friends and home a lot so I was feeling sad and stressed out about being away from them and I also felt stressed out at work, not being with family and feeling so exhausted behind the bar and feeling out of place because of not knowing my work friends well. I had a good cry over it and let everything out, and it felt good after that but those moments I felt so down reminded me of the person I was when I was around my ex and for some odd reason I kept thinking I was feeling that way because I always did when he was in my life. I was so used to feeling sad and not myself around him that it felt so normal to be reminded of him when I did feel sad and stressed out. Because whenever I was sad and stressed, it was because of him. But what I reminded myself is that it is okay to feel stressed and sad at times and my ex was not the reason I do get upset that way I have felt in the past. I accept that not everyday can be perfect and if I didn’t feel sad or a little bit stressed then I wouldn’t be human. Once you accept that things have to be a certain way, you are on the road to feeling so empowered and so liberated. Acceptance has helped me and still helps me a whole lot and it was so hard for me to get to this point but anything is possible and I know I will always succeed with this life tool.

Going solo

Months ago I used to absolutely hate being single. After my ex, I wished to be with someone constantly and I never thought I would ever find that one Mr. Right. As I have mentioned in my ‘Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely’ blog, I talk about how I felt I had to catch up to my friends who were in serious relationships. Through experience, I discovered that it wasn’t the right path to go down. I set myself up for disappointment and false hope with guys who could care less about me as a person. It’s all part of the learning experience anyway. But through all that, it has made me realise that I don’t ever want to revolve my life around that one guy because you never know what can happen and the majority are either of the following:
– they are just after sex
– they use you, get bored of you and don’t love you anymore
– they cheat
I don’t believe all guys are bad because I have good guy friends but through experience, I have come to learn that most guys could care less about you and one girl is never enough for them. You can’t ever really trust them, and you’d be lucky to have a guy who truly cares about you and loves you for you.

This isn’t an attack on all guys, but through my own experiences and through those of my friends, I have absolutely no interest in them at this point in time. Not to be in a relationship anyway. They are way too much drama and only cause trouble. I’m just so glad I am single and enjoy life not having to deal with boy dramas. I think after being in a serious relationship for 3 years, and during a time I was really young and naive, I think I owe it to myself to give all that time back to me, for when I wasn’t on my own. Already in these few months I have started getting to know myself again and I’m happier because I am dedicating my time to me and focusing on my wants and needs. I now know what I want in a guy in the future when I’m willing and ready to allow someone in and be able to trust them enough to let them have me if I feel they are worthy.

For the moment, the single life is really fun for me. I do everything that I want to do and I don’t have to run it by anyone. I also have so much more time for myself. I’m such a happier and stronger person this way. I’m so proud to say I’m happy on my own and this is how it will stay for a while.

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Be who you are, and do it on purpose

This blog is inspired by one of my good friends Christopher Stefano. Since receiving the a’okay from him to write about a recent incident he went through, I have decided to share it with you all. Chris is gay and his mum’s friend is a homophobe and she had recently put him down and cursed at him for his sexuality saying things like ‘it is all an act and that he tries to be gay, dresses like a freak and will never succeed in life’. Chris being someone I really care about, knowing that this happened has hurt and angered me that people can say such a thing. What I am most proud of about Chris in this situation is that he never backed down on who he is and he wasn’t afraid to make that clear to her. He stays true to himself and doesn’t care what people think of him. And that makes him such a strong, happy and true person. And I love him for that. I am not a judgemental person myself and I have absolutely nothing against gays and lesbians. I accept people for who they are no matter what their sexuality. I just can’t seem to understand why others have to be so rude against it. His situation really stresses the importance of being who you are and staying true to that no matter what anyone else thinks. It also shows that some people are extremely judgemental and ignorant and that they are the ones who truly aren’t happy in their own lives. They’re either lacking something, are jealous, don’t really feel good about themselves and are insecure. And I think that’s the most important thing to realise too because you shouldn’t let people bring you down when you know who you are and you’re proud of it. Chris’s situation reminds me of quite a few people who have put me down, just because they have nothing better to do. Namely, my ex. Similarly, as what I have stated in my ‘Just laugh it off’ and ‘Ignorance is bliss’ blogs I think it is so important to just laugh at those who bring you down, ignore them and keep them out of your life! Because in the end, they are the ones who need a reality check in their own lives! And if they were truly happy, they wouldn’t be saying negative things about you or towards you to bring you down. That is such an important lesson I have learned; is to just be myself, not be afraid of that and be proud of who I am and always stay true to that. If people aren’t happy with who I am and don’t accept me for me then it’s their loss. And I don’t care because if you can’t take me as I am then really, you’re just not a genuine person and I don’t need that in my life. NO ONE does. Get rid of negative, judgmental, ignorant people because they are just toxic and will ruin your life if you let them in. Say NO, be true to who you are, never be afraid of it and live your life as happily as you can. Surround yourself with good, positive people and I am more than certain you are going to succeed in life.

All the best!
– Kathy
xxx

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This is my amazing friend Chris, isn’t he gorgeous!

Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely

Whether you’ve been through a break up or not, some of us feel we need to rush into finding love. It could be because we feel we’re behind from our friends who are in long term relationships or because we feel we won’t ever find anyone so we decide to settle for less; someone who isn’t right for us and won’t make us ideally happy. And in the long run, you won’t be in a genuine relationship with that person.

Soon after my ex boyfriend and I broke up I felt I had to move on to someone else straight away and start a relationship with them to make the pain go away and forget my ex. Well through seeing different people and growing attached to them, only for those relationships to shatter and never become anything more, I learned that that’s not the best move because I find soon after a break up, issues between you and your ex are still fresh and therefore you’re not emotionally ready to commit yourself to someone else. You’d constantly be comparing your new partner with your ex and that’s not fair on you or them and it would result in an unhappy relationship, more hurt and potentially, another break up.

I myself have good friends who are in serious relationships and I always felt I had to catch up to them because it seemed that they have their lives on track and are set to go. What I didn’t realise until recently is that you don’t need a partner for you to say your life is set. You don’t need to be like anyone else who is a couple either long term, engaged or soon to married. Life is not defined by one person. Well I don’t think so anyway. There is plenty of time
to settle down and be with someone but first it’s important to make room
for you and enjoy your life on your own, to do all the things you wouldn’t normally do or can’t do if you have a partner. There is no need to rush. I’m young, I’m 21, and a lot of you people out there are young too. Be happy you’re at an age you can still enjoy your life and do so much for YOU. I used to absolutely hate being single but I’ve become so used to it over the past few months and I absolutely love it! I don’t have to answer to anyone, nor do I need to stop myself from doing or not doing something because of someone else. I don’t have to worry about fights or any other dramas with someone else. It’s a great life! The thought of being with my one true guy is a nice thought but one that will exist in the near future. I will settle down when I’m ready. But for right now, I’m going to enjoy my life. And you should too. So don’t be sad you’re not with anyone and don’t be desperate and just jump at someone who crosses your path just because you need someone to make up for your loneliness. That’s not the way to true love. After all, it’s better to wait and have something that’s real and true, than to rush and settle for second best.

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