Going solo

Months ago I used to absolutely hate being single. After my ex, I wished to be with someone constantly and I never thought I would ever find that one Mr. Right. As I have mentioned in my ‘Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely’ blog, I talk about how I felt I had to catch up to my friends who were in serious relationships. Through experience, I discovered that it wasn’t the right path to go down. I set myself up for disappointment and false hope with guys who could care less about me as a person. It’s all part of the learning experience anyway. But through all that, it has made me realise that I don’t ever want to revolve my life around that one guy because you never know what can happen and the majority are either of the following:
– they are just after sex
– they use you, get bored of you and don’t love you anymore
– they cheat
I don’t believe all guys are bad because I have good guy friends but through experience, I have come to learn that most guys could care less about you and one girl is never enough for them. You can’t ever really trust them, and you’d be lucky to have a guy who truly cares about you and loves you for you.

This isn’t an attack on all guys, but through my own experiences and through those of my friends, I have absolutely no interest in them at this point in time. Not to be in a relationship anyway. They are way too much drama and only cause trouble. I’m just so glad I am single and enjoy life not having to deal with boy dramas. I think after being in a serious relationship for 3 years, and during a time I was really young and naive, I think I owe it to myself to give all that time back to me, for when I wasn’t on my own. Already in these few months I have started getting to know myself again and I’m happier because I am dedicating my time to me and focusing on my wants and needs. I now know what I want in a guy in the future when I’m willing and ready to allow someone in and be able to trust them enough to let them have me if I feel they are worthy.

For the moment, the single life is really fun for me. I do everything that I want to do and I don’t have to run it by anyone. I also have so much more time for myself. I’m such a happier and stronger person this way. I’m so proud to say I’m happy on my own and this is how it will stay for a while.

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Be who you are, and do it on purpose

This blog is inspired by one of my good friends Christopher Stefano. Since receiving the a’okay from him to write about a recent incident he went through, I have decided to share it with you all. Chris is gay and his mum’s friend is a homophobe and she had recently put him down and cursed at him for his sexuality saying things like ‘it is all an act and that he tries to be gay, dresses like a freak and will never succeed in life’. Chris being someone I really care about, knowing that this happened has hurt and angered me that people can say such a thing. What I am most proud of about Chris in this situation is that he never backed down on who he is and he wasn’t afraid to make that clear to her. He stays true to himself and doesn’t care what people think of him. And that makes him such a strong, happy and true person. And I love him for that. I am not a judgemental person myself and I have absolutely nothing against gays and lesbians. I accept people for who they are no matter what their sexuality. I just can’t seem to understand why others have to be so rude against it. His situation really stresses the importance of being who you are and staying true to that no matter what anyone else thinks. It also shows that some people are extremely judgemental and ignorant and that they are the ones who truly aren’t happy in their own lives. They’re either lacking something, are jealous, don’t really feel good about themselves and are insecure. And I think that’s the most important thing to realise too because you shouldn’t let people bring you down when you know who you are and you’re proud of it. Chris’s situation reminds me of quite a few people who have put me down, just because they have nothing better to do. Namely, my ex. Similarly, as what I have stated in my ‘Just laugh it off’ and ‘Ignorance is bliss’ blogs I think it is so important to just laugh at those who bring you down, ignore them and keep them out of your life! Because in the end, they are the ones who need a reality check in their own lives! And if they were truly happy, they wouldn’t be saying negative things about you or towards you to bring you down. That is such an important lesson I have learned; is to just be myself, not be afraid of that and be proud of who I am and always stay true to that. If people aren’t happy with who I am and don’t accept me for me then it’s their loss. And I don’t care because if you can’t take me as I am then really, you’re just not a genuine person and I don’t need that in my life. NO ONE does. Get rid of negative, judgmental, ignorant people because they are just toxic and will ruin your life if you let them in. Say NO, be true to who you are, never be afraid of it and live your life as happily as you can. Surround yourself with good, positive people and I am more than certain you are going to succeed in life.

All the best!
– Kathy
xxx

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This is my amazing friend Chris, isn’t he gorgeous!

The law of attraction

The law of attraction is a term used in The Secret which means attracting our thoughts and drawing them to ourselves whether they are good or bad. It is the most powerful law in the universe because YOU attract what you want in your life and whatever thoughts are on your mind, you are emitting that onto a frequency to the Universe and those thoughts are transmitted back to you. Whatever it is you’re feeling is what you will receive.

This law fits in with something that happened to me today – I was at a department store minding my own business when a lovely man came up to me and told me: ‘You are so beautiful’ And it was so unexpected. I was so thankful for his compliment and it was so nice of him to say. He said it in such a respectful way too. Now I don’t intend to be up myself in any way at all here, but I’m happy he said that because I know I am and it’s because I feel good about myself and have been attracting thoughts of high self-esteem, knowing I look good, feeling good within myself that I’m receiving such compliments. I never used to be told this near as much or at all randomly when I had low self esteem because I didn’t believe in myself. I never believed I was beautiful at all.

Being positive and feeling happy within yourself brings so much good into your life. ‘Like attracts like’ as The Secret states and if you are constantly having happy thoughts then you are attracting that back into your life. The more good you feel, the more good things will come to you.

It works the same with negative thoughts. If you keep thinking them, negativity is what you are transmitting back.

‘Everything you want is an inside job! The outside world is the world of effects; it’s the result of thoughts’
– The Secret

Always remember to attract the good instead of the bad!

Family, friends and the social life

I’ve been a little slack on keeping up with my daily posts and since I did not blog for yesterday, this blog will be in reference to then and I will also be blogging for today so you will have two reads to keep you all busy!

Yesterday was pretty busy apart from the slowish morning I had. I finally went to bed at a decent hour the Monday night before, which for me was around 10 and that never happens so I told myself I would get up early on the Tuesday to go on a run.  When Tuesday morning came around, I managed to get up after a decent night’s sleep but as soon as I saw the gloominess and rain drops outside, my very eager emotions soon turned to lack of motivation and no interest. I was pretty disappointed in myself because I had been exercising for 4 days straight and I told myself I would only have 1 or two rest days, which I already did on Sunday and Monday. It’s okay though because I had a pretty healthy breakfast which included a piece of fruit, and I don’t eat as much here as I do at home and I know I’ll be running again anyway so my drive is not lost!

And so I wasn’t going to be inside the house all day! I went downtown with my auntie and uncle who needed to run some errands and later that afternoon we picked up my cousin Lisa from work. But the day didn’t end there. My uncle was driving from market to market so my auntie could buy the necessary ingredients for her cooking business. It was evening by the time we got home and I was feeling sleepy from the early wake up so I had a little nap. About 15 minutes later, I was awoken by my cousin who asked if I wanted to go out with their neighbour Grace who I met on Sunday night when they took me out bowling. I was pretty keen since I wanted to catch up and do something with someone around my age. Grace took me out to Elephant Bar in Serramonte where we had some nibbles and a couple of drinks. This place was pretty busy for a Tuesday night, it was awesome! It was really nice for me since I felt like I was back at home catching up with my friends.  As much as I’m having fun with and love my family, it was good to experience social life with someone who I could speak to on the same level as me. All in all I had a really good night and it was good to feel at home. Hello to more adventures!

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