When guys have it easy…

Has anyone realised how easy males have it? They’re not the ones who get periods, they’re not the ones that get pregnant. They can sleep with someone and not worry about having to take the morning after pill or not take it and risk growing a bump! Sometimes I ask myself, is this fair?

One issue I was thinking about a lot today after reading an article in ‘Grazia’ magazine is that the one thing that is considered in a way, socially acceptable for males is the action of sleeping around with other girls. For some reason, the girls get labelled as ‘whores’, or ‘sluts’ for sleeping around. And that’s not to say that all girls are like that, but even the ones who have the odd one night stands can be looked down upon and yet for guys it’s just considered perhaps normal or acceptable in society.

We all know when it’s too far and some girls just want some every moment they can get! But what about the ones who decide to have the odd one nightstand? The ones who genuinely won’t emotionally regret it and just want to have fun? Would they then, still deserve to be classified as sluts?

You here the term ‘man whore’ being thrown around but it isn’t used very often for males because to sleep around for them isn’t considered a big deal. I guess since a lot of them are known for it. But when will it be the day that they will get such a label as ours and it isn’t considered socially acceptable? I doubt that day will ever come.

Give some of these girls a break! Having a one night stand does not make them whores. And I guess it all stems from what beliefs you have on sex before marriage too.

Well, at least there are guys out there who don’t represent that majority anyway. But for those that do, you’re pretty darn lucky you don’t get labelled the same way girls do when it comes to this issue…

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Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely

Whether you’ve been through a break up or not, some of us feel we need to rush into finding love. It could be because we feel we’re behind from our friends who are in long term relationships or because we feel we won’t ever find anyone so we decide to settle for less; someone who isn’t right for us and won’t make us ideally happy. And in the long run, you won’t be in a genuine relationship with that person.

Soon after my ex boyfriend and I broke up I felt I had to move on to someone else straight away and start a relationship with them to make the pain go away and forget my ex. Well through seeing different people and growing attached to them, only for those relationships to shatter and never become anything more, I learned that that’s not the best move because I find soon after a break up, issues between you and your ex are still fresh and therefore you’re not emotionally ready to commit yourself to someone else. You’d constantly be comparing your new partner with your ex and that’s not fair on you or them and it would result in an unhappy relationship, more hurt and potentially, another break up.

I myself have good friends who are in serious relationships and I always felt I had to catch up to them because it seemed that they have their lives on track and are set to go. What I didn’t realise until recently is that you don’t need a partner for you to say your life is set. You don’t need to be like anyone else who is a couple either long term, engaged or soon to married. Life is not defined by one person. Well I don’t think so anyway. There is plenty of time
to settle down and be with someone but first it’s important to make room
for you and enjoy your life on your own, to do all the things you wouldn’t normally do or can’t do if you have a partner. There is no need to rush. I’m young, I’m 21, and a lot of you people out there are young too. Be happy you’re at an age you can still enjoy your life and do so much for YOU. I used to absolutely hate being single but I’ve become so used to it over the past few months and I absolutely love it! I don’t have to answer to anyone, nor do I need to stop myself from doing or not doing something because of someone else. I don’t have to worry about fights or any other dramas with someone else. It’s a great life! The thought of being with my one true guy is a nice thought but one that will exist in the near future. I will settle down when I’m ready. But for right now, I’m going to enjoy my life. And you should too. So don’t be sad you’re not with anyone and don’t be desperate and just jump at someone who crosses your path just because you need someone to make up for your loneliness. That’s not the way to true love. After all, it’s better to wait and have something that’s real and true, than to rush and settle for second best.

The wrong crowd

We all like to look good when we go out but how much is too much?

I went out with my cousins yesterday and was approached by two sleazy guys who said ‘Hey baby what’s going on?’ In the instance that I ignored them, they followed me and said ‘Hey babe can I talk to you for a second?’ I kept walking and my cousin got closer to me which made these two guys go away.

This isn’t the first time it’s happened and I seem to attract the wrong people. Sometimes I feel I should dress down and not wear make up for sleazy comments from guys to stop. Maybe a nice guy would approach me when I decide to look natural on some days.

It just gets really frustrating when you want to look nice and it makes you feel good but a lot of the time the wrong people have to make horrid remarks and wolf whistles.

The same thing happens if I wait at a bus stop on a main road. Cars come passed and just beep. It’s so annoying!

If only there weren’t guys who are that sleazy and make those comments but it’s bound to happen unfortunately. It’s quite sad to know that physical appearances get abused and aren’t looked at respectfully. Some girls honestly just want to look and feel good and wear clothes that suit their bodies without implying they want anything from guys.

All I’ve got to do is just mind my own business as I usually do and pretend they aren’t even there.

Looking good doesn’t always give us the results we want!

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