To worry not, is quite a task

Throughout the years I have always been a worry wart – overthinking every little thing, always thinking something is wrong when it isn’t, making small things into bigger things.

These days I try to keep worrying to a minimum as I know it doesn’t do me any good. But I guess that’s easier said than done. Some issues are so easy to put out of the mind, but then sometimes they come back and bother us again. I often question why I worry about certain issues when they don’t even matter or issues that I have no control over. I get myself into what my best friend calls an ‘anxiety spiral’ where I let the worry bother me so much it takes over me. I wish I did care less about certain things, but sometimes it’s so hard to let stuff go.

I guess the moral of this story is to not worry about anything you can’t change, don’t dwell on the past, and just concentrate on the now. We can all choose whether or not to worry about something. And if we look at the bigger picture and ask ourselves whether this will matter in 5 or 10 years time, then we should be convinced that worrying is unecessary!

Connections with the ones you haven’t met

One of my fellow bloggers inspired me to write this blog – a very beautiful, pure and happy person who has such a huge drive for life that absolutely amazes me.

I don’t know her very well at all, she lives on the other side of the world and I’ve never met her but it’s amazing how closely you can connect with someone who appears to be so similar to you based on your own life experiences and how you see the world.

I just want to say to all of my fellow bloggers out there, thank you all for having an impact on my life and for sharing your views on the world that give me a different, if not better, perspective of my own world. You all touch my life in ways words can’t even describe!

xxx

When guys have it easy…

Has anyone realised how easy males have it? They’re not the ones who get periods, they’re not the ones that get pregnant. They can sleep with someone and not worry about having to take the morning after pill or not take it and risk growing a bump! Sometimes I ask myself, is this fair?

One issue I was thinking about a lot today after reading an article in ‘Grazia’ magazine is that the one thing that is considered in a way, socially acceptable for males is the action of sleeping around with other girls. For some reason, the girls get labelled as ‘whores’, or ‘sluts’ for sleeping around. And that’s not to say that all girls are like that, but even the ones who have the odd one night stands can be looked down upon and yet for guys it’s just considered perhaps normal or acceptable in society.

We all know when it’s too far and some girls just want some every moment they can get! But what about the ones who decide to have the odd one nightstand? The ones who genuinely won’t emotionally regret it and just want to have fun? Would they then, still deserve to be classified as sluts?

You here the term ‘man whore’ being thrown around but it isn’t used very often for males because to sleep around for them isn’t considered a big deal. I guess since a lot of them are known for it. But when will it be the day that they will get such a label as ours and it isn’t considered socially acceptable? I doubt that day will ever come.

Give some of these girls a break! Having a one night stand does not make them whores. And I guess it all stems from what beliefs you have on sex before marriage too.

Well, at least there are guys out there who don’t represent that majority anyway. But for those that do, you’re pretty darn lucky you don’t get labelled the same way girls do when it comes to this issue…

The key to living a simple life

1. Feel and be happy, whatever the situation.

2. Worry less! (Easier said than done, even for myself)

3. Don’t complain (Something I find a challange, especially being a female)

4. Put YOUR happiness first.

5. Take each day as it comes, have no expectations. Everything else is bonus.

6. Stop any negative thinking.

7. Be nice to others and you’ll be treated the way you want to be treated.

8. Forgive others, and yourself.

9. Don’t hold grudges.

10. LOVE life.

11. Be positive.

12. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re a good person.

13. Be confident in yourself.

14. Be open minded as much as you can because thoughts become things!

15. Make a negative situation a positive one, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

16. And most importantly, SMILE!

The universe will take care of the rest.

Don’t worry, be happy

Since I had a rough week last week having a hard time dealing with homesickness, I decided to post this photo up of me at a time I was really happy and calm, and also somewhere that is my favourite place to be – the beach! Starting to feel much better now thanks to the weather and my friends, especially having an awesome girlie day out today with Lisa.

If anyone else is having a hard time, I have this photo up for you too to remind you all to treasure the good moments in your life and be as happy as you can be despite the bad times.

Take care, be strong, happy smiling and god bless!

Love Kathy
xxx

One day

This would have to be the most beautiful but tragic love story of all time…

I loved it but I hated it.

Miss Sleigh!

As you may or may not know, I am now a volunteer at my cousin’s primary school in the UK. This amazing opportunity came about when my cousin’s teacher was seeking assistance for anyone to help out with her class’ reading. Since my cousin knows I am going to be studying primary school teaching, she mentioned me to her teacher and now here I am.

I sat in on my first class yesterday and had so much fun with the kids! They were adorable and very inquisitive. They are an interesting bunch and it was great to work with them.

It was strange but nice being called Miss Sleigh. It makes me feel like I have so much authority and that I am a teacher now.

I cannot wait to study this and make it my career one day! Teaching is where I’m meant to be.

Danny boy

My future husband:

And to you know who, he isn’t yours! He’s mine! Haha. I love this sexy piece of man

The evil J

I’m not sure how many of us get jealous, I know I do at times but it’s the worst thing to feel and I wish I didn’t feel that way so much. I wouldn’t say I’m a jealous person normally,
but I do feel that way towards certain situations. And yet, I know people who NEVER get jealous at all and I really admire them for that. This topic has come about when it was discussed at the primary school I volunteered at today and it made me reflect on what I have been jealous of. I’m really interested to know if any of you get jealous over anything, whether big or small? Does it make us bad people?

Gym junkie to be?

Thanks to my awesome friend Lisa, I have started to get into gym and exercise again. We went to the Genisis Health Suite at The Palace Hotel in Paignton and at first, I was so nervous, we both were, since it was our first session. I was worried about people paying attention and watching me, which I’ve heard is not the case since everyone is doing their own thing and are all there for a reason.

It turns out that I felt so good after it and I didn’t care so much what others were thinking. I did the cross trainer, row machine, treadmill and some sit ups. I could have done more of those if I didn’t work so hard on the cross trainer! At least it was a good hour spent in the gym.

Following that, Lisa and I used the pool which was really relaxing and refreshing after the workout. It was good to get in there! We also took advantage of the spa

Thank goodness I got to go today because not only am I motivated and driven to go the gym more, but it has made me motivated to start running again since I have missed months of running for the time I’ve been here so it will be good to get into that again.

The only dilemma I have with the gym is the next time I go, I need to be a member and at the moment, I don’t have the funds to join for any of the membership deals. This is where a second job needs to come in! As soon as that is sorted I’ll be on it! For now, I hope Lisa will be fine without a gym buddy for the moment.

I feel so good after today!!